Is Social Media Making Us More or Less Connected?

Social media has transformed how human beings connect, allowing it to communicate immediately across the globe. Platforms like Instagram, TikTok, Facebook, and Twitter provide a venue to share moments, build communities, and interact with people of different backgrounds. Social media provides connections in manners that were otherwise impossible, yet critics argue it can ruin life relationships by enabling superficial connections and technology addiction.

Then, is social media actually making us closer, or is it lonelier than ever? The response isn't black and white—social media can strengthen or ruin relationships depending on its use.

The Case for More Connection

Social media has broken down geographical and cultural barriers, allowing people to connect regardless of distance. Here’s how it enhances social bonds:

a) Keeping Long-Distance Relationships Alive

Before social media, maintaining friendships or relationships across long distances required letters, expensive phone calls, or emails. Now, people can instantly message, video chat, and share updates in real-time. Studies have found that social media helps sustain relationships by providing consistent communication, especially for those separated by distance (Tobin & Guadagno, 2021).

b) Community Building and Support Groups

Social media has created spaces for people with similar interests or struggles to find support. Whether it’s a mental health advocacy group, a niche hobby forum, or a space for marginalized communities, these digital connections can be incredibly meaningful. Many individuals who feel isolated in their physical surroundings find solace in online communities where they feel understood and valued.

c) Social Activism and Global Awareness

From the #MeToo movement to #BlackLivesMatter, social media has become a powerful tool for activism. It enables people to stay informed, engage in discussions, and take action on important social issues. This type of connection isn’t just about personal relationships—it’s about fostering a sense of collective purpose and global unity.

The Psychological Impact of Social Media

Beyond just social connection, social media has profound psychological effects that influence how we perceive ourselves and others.

Social Comparison and Self-Esteem Issues

Scrolling through highlight reels of other people’s lives can create a distorted perception of reality. Seeing others travel, succeed, or look perfect online can make users feel inadequate in comparison. The Journal of Social and Clinical Psychology found that limiting social media use to 30 minutes per day significantly reduces anxiety and depression (Hunt et al., 2018).

Fear of Missing Out (FOMO)

Social media fosters a constant stream of updates, making people feel like they’re missing out on experiences others are having. This phenomenon, known as FOMO, can increase anxiety and dissatisfaction with one's own life. Even when people are enjoying their own experiences, they may feel compelled to document them online rather than fully immerse themselves in the moment.

The Impact on Communication Skills

Decline in Face-to-Face Interaction

With so many conversations happening through screens, people—especially younger generations—are becoming less comfortable with in-person interactions. Studies have shown that excessive social media use can lead to weaker communication skills, making real-life interactions feel awkward or unnatural (Twenge et al., 2020).

Miscommunication and Online Conflicts

Without tone of voice, facial expressions, or body language, messages on social media can be easily misinterpreted. This often leads to unnecessary arguments or misunderstandings, damaging relationships rather than strengthening them.

Conclusion: A Double-Edged Sword

Social media has the power to both connect and disconnect us. It allows us to stay in touch with loved ones, build communities, and spread awareness, but it can also lead to superficial relationships, loneliness, and communication struggles. The key lies in how we use it—if approached mindfully, social media can be a tool for connection rather than isolation.

Sources

• Tobin, J. E., & Guadagno, R. E. (2021). Social media and friendships: Strengthening or weakening ties? Computers in Human Behavior, 123, 106861.

• Twenge, J. M., Haidt, J., Joiner, T. E., & Campbell, W. K. (2020). Social media use and mental health: A review. American Psychological Association.

• Hunt, M. G., Marx, R., Lipson, C., & Young, J. (2018). No more FOMO: Limiting social media decreases loneliness and depression. Journal of Social and Clinical Psychology, 37(10), 751-768.

• Primack, B. A., Shensa, A., Sidani, J. E., Whaite, E. O., Lin, L. Y., Rosen, D., ... & Miller, E. (2017). Social media use and perceived social isolation among young adults in the U.S. American Journal of Preventive Medicine, 53(1), 1-8.

Written by:

Vibhas Tallapalli